Drum Roll, Please

I know that many of you are wondering what our next step is going to be. We have made a final decision to NOT transplant Oliver.
Unfortunately, the benefits from the umbilical cord blood transplant are not great. There will be no cognitive improvement, because the cells cannot pass through the blood-brain barrier. The doctors have seen behavioral improvements and the physical deterioration is slowed in patients who have been transplanted. When we add all of the benefits up against the risks (he has an 85% chance of surviving the transplant, but still at risk for graft-versus-host disease or other very serious infections) & the impact on our family, especially Waverly, we just don't think the transplant is the way to go.
As a mom, my instincts are to do whatever I can to help my dying baby. Saying "no" to doctors who think they can do something to help Oliver, is the absolute most difficult decision that I have ever had to make.
We did not want to sequester our family for an entire year; away from family and friends, schools and church, playgroups and parks. We are choosing to relish in Waverly & Oliver - to never pass a carousel without taking a ride, always taking the time to pick up sticks, carrying a balloon all over town, and making as many trips to Disney World to see Pooh & his friends.
We will now embark on a long journey of decisions. We are trying to determine if we can fulfill our commitment to another year in London. We feel like there are SO many doctors and specialists we need to see, that a move back to the US will most likely be in our best interests. We are also trying to figure out where that move will take us. There is so much to consider. Thanks to all of your for your support. Thanks to Duke for being such a pioneer in this field and wanting to help kids with Sanfilippo so desperately.

Comments

kelly said…
hi friends,
i continue to hope, pray, ache for you as you journey through this season. may you have many moments to play and delight in your kids!!!
kflyingcircus said…
Enjoy each day with them - even waking up at 2am :-) Praying for the long road ahead, decisions about moving, and many other things. Sending our love from Okinawa, with broken hearts as we cannot imagine our life without our children. Couldn't help but think of the lyrics to the song by Joy Williams:

Every Moment

We laughed out loud 'til we cried
And the tears were sweet
Midnight melted to morning
A moment faded to memory
All these days just slip away through our fingers

Chorus:
So... Don't let go
Hold onto every moment
Always know
Hold on to every moment that You can

We move on with no regrets to our destiny
Held by the hands of the Father
We share His love and He leads us through
All these days
Cause they slip away through our fingers
So...

Chorus

Running through yesterday into tomorrow
Don't let it just drift away
Forget about tying the hands of time
Give every minute to the One who's given today

Chorus
Brittany said…
We are praying that you feel relieved with this decision now behind you. I can't imagine how agonizing this must have been for you both. Please know that whatever we can do to help "sieze" those moments for the kids, we are more than willing! We'll continue to pray as you start this next chapter in this journey.
test said…
We love you, so much.
Jen said…
It sounds like you've made a very good decision. I hope you'll be able to make some great memories, and that the future decisions you have to make will come easily to you.
christie said…
You do not know me but I am praying for you. I admire your attitude! May you have the peace hope and strength you need to get through this. May you even find joy.
Sarah M. said…
Loving you and supporting you-
Mike and Sarah said…
Praying that you are feeling at peace about your decision. You have inspired me to enjoy every moment with my kids!!! We'll continue to pray as you face your next step of decisions.
Unknown said…
praying that God will bless your family!! enjoy your children as you care for them...they are a gift from God!
spence said…
"Be Strong and Courageous."

I posted a message earlier, but i posted it under "visitors" instead of "Drum Roll" Not sure if that makes a difference.
I just wanted to make sure you get it so you know that we feel for you. Keep your head up.

Love,
Christy "Spence"
Tari Reph said…
Hi Matt and Shannon,
Uncle Guy and I just wanted to let you guys know that we are continuing to pray for your family. I'm sure that was a very difficult decision, but we both feel that you made the right one. May the Lord give you a peace about that.
Ellen said…
shannon - i am so glad you have decided - and it completely makes sense - though i cannot imagine having to make that decision! absolutely - drink in the moments with your sweet little ones.
pknelson said…
Matt and Shannon,
Our hearts are with you. I pray the Lord will grant you continued peace about your decision and wisdom for each day that lies ahead. Waverly and Oliver are certainly blessed to have such wonderful parents and I know you are blessed to be gifted with such precious children. Our Sunday school class is praying for you daily.
Pam Nelson
(Sarah N. Mingle's mom)
susanp said…
Matt and Shannon,
You encourage me in your decision to relish in your children, to take the time to carry balloons, ride on carousels, to pick up sticks, to really LIVE. I have three kids now (you haven't met Loic), and I spend day after day having an agenda to make them do the things that I want, to turn them into me, instead of letting them be the person God has intended for them to be. So, I must repent, and I encourage you to keep living, because it is an example for those like myself who have forgotten that:

This is the day that the Lord has made. I will rejoice and be glad in it.

Susan Polston

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